Time to upgrade ourselves

Today's GE lesson was an extra ordinary. After the session i had to think more about my life.

Thank you Prof Sonika Mam, Parul university for the motivation words you shared with us today. This is worth sharing let me break down some of the things she talked about and i will try to explain them with the way i understood. We tend to be more concerned about upgrading our applications, softwares, androids etc but we tend to forget that even ourselves we need to be upgraded.

Bill Gates once remarked that the key to succeed in business is to innovate and make yourself obsolete. If you don’t make yourself obsolete, your competitors will make you obsolete. Relating this quote to what Prof Sonika Mam said I agree completely. We live in a fast-changing world. What is current today may already be obsolete two years from now. For that reason, it’s important to know how to improve yourself. You need to make yourself obsolete. If you don’t, someone else will.

I know everyone now really wants to know HOW TO IMPROVE THEMSELVES. Prof Sonika Mam helps me to answer that question.

  Identifying Goals
Imagine what it could be like in the future. Thinking about future positive and negative possibilities enhances motivation, expectation of successful goal completion, and commitment to self-improvement. Thinking about a positive future helps you imagine a reality where you are the best self you can be, while imagining a negative reality results in an awareness of what might happen if you do not meet your improvement goals.

• Imagine a miracle happened overnight and when woke up in the morning you were exactly how you want to be. Everything you wanted to improve about yourself happened in the middle of the night somehow. How are you different? How does it feel? Who is around you? What are you doing? Imagine what it would be like to live life as this completely improved self. Based on what you imagine, you can begin developing goals. Perhaps you imagined yourself as being confident and physically fit. What do you think would have needed to happen for this to occur? Ok maybe you want to be fluent in english like Prof Sonika Mam, whats your goals to become like her?. 

  Determine what needs improvement and what doesn't. 

It is important to be specific in your goals, and to know which goals are a top priority.

• Identify your assets (honest, hard-working, loving...etc.) and your liabilities (angry, overweight...etc.). This may help you identify the areas in which you want to make the most improvement.
• Prioritize your list of goals. Rate each goal from 1-10, 10 being the highest priority for you. Focus on this goal first. I know this one is hard. what do i mean its simply if you think your first priority now is to study then focus on studying. But you have to determine your first priority because lot of us we tend to forget our main priorities. We forget the main reason why we are in business, why we are at school or college. if we know the reason definitely improvement will come.
   
  3. Get feedback.
   Receiving feedback about what to improve upon helps individuals’ performance on tasks, and enhances goal-achievement. Thus, asking others ways you can improve will help you develop specific goals and motivate you on your journey. 
  • Start by asking your significant other or family members ways they think you can improve yourself. Make sure you only ask individuals whom you trust and those that will take your feelings into consideration (rather than belittling or criticizing you). You might be surprised by their answers.
  • Talk to a trusted confidante such as a therapist, a religious leader or even a your friend. Having an outside party helps reduce self-deception and denial. We sometimes have a problem of being either too hard or too soft on ourselves, but talking to others can help us form an accurate picture of ourselves if we are to improve.
  • Pick which suggestions you can apply to yourself and to practice those suggestions. If a certain set doesn't seem to work, try another! Nothing works for everyone. You need to find what works for you!
   Another important thing. Make sure you are ready to change. 
   There are 4 stages of change according to the Transtheoretical Model of behavior change. Identifying which stage you are in can help you determine whether you are ready to make a change or if you need more motivation. 
  
  

  • Pre-contemplation stage: This stage is when there is a problem but you are not aware of it or you are denying it.
  • Contemplation: You are aware of a problem and are contemplating changing it. People can become stuck on this step for a long time until they move on. You may be in this stage if you are still deciding what to change about yourself.
  • Preparation: You have committed to change and are making a plan of action. You may be in this stage if you are working on your goals.
  • Action: Making the changes. You are in this stage if you are working on your plan on a daily basis. You have a plan and are currently moving toward your goal.
  • Maintenance: You have completed your goal and are maintaining your progress.

   

  Practice, practice, practice! 

  Change may come slowly especially if it is a large self-improvement. Just keep going until your goal is your new reality (the changed you).
  

  • Remind yourself about your specific goals on a daily basis. if you continue practicing that english  you can even be better than Sonika mam but it takes time..

  
  And lastly,  Accept and affirm yourself. 
  Research indicates that individuals who accept their challenges can actually be more motivated toward positive change. Additionally, individuals who affirm or validate themselves often are more able to think about and understand their challenges.
  
  

  • Recognize your strengths and your challenges, even if you have to list all of them down.
  • Understand yourself as an outsider observer. Try to objectively look at yourself by observing your behaviors such as how you act, speak, and think around other people.

  
  Thank you for reading don't forget to come back later