Things you must leave behind to go ahead or to be successful

          Like my friend Endup Lepcha from Bhutang always says,

         I am not going to tell you the cooked story, I am not going to defame your opinion, I am not going to curb your thinking,  But I am here with facts with evidences from my powerful tongue for all the powerful thinkers.

 

I had to leave my family in Zimbabwe in order for me to be a better person. I had to leave all the things behind. Even my community which made me the Petros i am today. I did this for me to be a better person. I know it's very hard to move a step further, that's why today i decided to touch on this issue. Things you must leave behind to go ahead or to be successful.

You can never change things by holding on to the existing reality. To get ahead in life, you have to leave some things behind and build a new model for living that makes the existing model obsolete. If we want to be truly successful, we need to let go of things – not find more things to do. True success is built as much around letting go, weeding out and cutting down as it is around setting goals for ourselves.

What am I rambling on about?. It’s nothing mystical or mysterious; it’s quite the opposite. The question is simple. In order to become who you want to be, you have to leave those parts of you and your life behind. Why will this make some of you uncomfortable?. Because normally, we don’t like to change, do we? We are all creatures of habit! But since your current ways of doing things have left you where you are today, it should be clear that you have to leave some of your habits behind…otherwise, what will change? Leaving parts of ourselves behind isn’t a strange idea; it’s the most common idea when you think about it,

My dear friends, brothers and sisters, fathers and mothers. Starting now now, we need to leave behind 

1.  Engaging in mindless activities

We all have habits, some of these are good, but many don’t contribute all that much to our results. Yet, we keep doing them simply because they are habits. You know what I’m talking about. It’s the things that make us feel good, like we’ve accomplished something, but ultimately don’t add anything in terms of our performance or achievement. Having meetings with unqualified prospects. Sending proposals to buyers who have no intention of buying from us. Spending excessive amounts of time researching prospects on social media. Youth i won't forget you on this, spending time concentrating in relationship which will not work out. If you want to be successful, the next step to take is this one: stop engaging in “busywork” that looks good on a dashboard, but ultimately doesn’t get you anywhere.

2. Relationship situations that shrink you.

 You have to admit, to a certain extent, you have spent too much of your life trying to shrink yourself. Trying to bend in half. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less YOU. Because you didn’t want to be too much or push people away. You wanted to fit in. You wanted people to like you. You wanted to make a good impression. You wanted to be wanted. So for years, you sacrificed yourself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, you suffered. Let this be your wake-up call. The primary reason that a toxic relationship situation holds you back has little to do with what the other person does directly to you; instead, it’s about how you have to constantly shrink yourself to conform to the situation. The pain and toxicity festers when you choose to shrink. When you choose to pull back, say less, or restrain your magnificence in any way out of fear, out of logic, or out of the cleverness to survive in a relationship, this spells trouble. So it’s not about them, really, it’s about your response to them. The next opportunity you have to spend time with this person (no matter how necessary, obligatory or comfortable it may seem), ask yourself: Will I have to shrink to make this work, or is this a situation where I can grow?

                             3.  Old lies you’re still holding on to and living through.
  There are absolutely no guarantees when you finally come clean and practice honesty with people. Sometimes you lose what you once had.    Sometimes you don’t win love and trust back. Sometimes your mistakes cut ties. Sometimes you break your own heart in the process. Sometimes you lose your footing and your way. Sometimes you end up feeling worse off than you did before. But even a step or two backward, after making a wrong turn, is a step in the right direction. You walk away from every act of honesty with a heart free from lies and regret. You have closure, one   way or the other, and this helps you in the long run. Over time, you heal and find yourself living a life that’s far from the mental torture chamber you once lived in.This path to freedom and happiness is the scariest one you will ever navigate. However, it is the path that                                                           ultimately saves your life.